Lately, we’ve been talking about authoritarian Christians’ new marketing push: the Cult of Family. Only these Christians know how to create and maintain happy families. Didn’t you know? But as we saw last time, these same Christians despise the values that go into that wondrous and rewarding task. They follow very different values. And they accidentally reveal, constantly, how those values turn out for them. Today, let me show you how toxic Christians let slip what their family lives really look like, and why they do it.
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An Immodest Proposal
Imagine for a moment that you’ve been approached by an exceptionally attractive billionaire. Well, not by him personally, but by one of his employees. And he tells you that his wealthy employer wants to ask for your hand in marriage! It’s a lot to take in, right? I know. But it’s totally legit. It’s a […]
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Relax, Everyone: This Christian Knows All About Compatibility (UYC)
As you’ll be overjoyed to learn, this Christian has totally figured out how people can tell if their significant other is good for the long haul. It’s not the advice itself that’s so cringe-inducing (though it very much is). It’s the attitude that went into the advice. Today, let me show you how one Christian refuses to allow reality anywhere near her best ideas.
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The Worst Advice Biff Got from Christians About Marriage
If there’s one thing ex-Christians in the Unequally Yoked Club know, it’s that our Christian spouses get the worst ever advice about how to handle our deconversions. Of course, the advice they get before then is bad too. Today, I’ll show you the three worst pieces of advice my Christian then-husband received–and how it backfired dramatically on him.
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The UYC: Hope in the Middle of Christian Hypocrisy About Marriage
The other day I was telling y’all that Christians increasingly pretend to be listening to their leaders, but then go do whatever they wanted to do anyway. Marriage and divorce definitely constitute two of the topics driving Christians to act like that. Today, here’s the war Christian leaders are fighting–and a very real sign that they are losing that battle.
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The UYC: How Marital Compatibility is (Mis)Defined (LSP #50)
In toxic Christianity, couples determine compatibility in a totally different way than most other folks do. Those standards simply don’t work to produce long-lasting marriages. But toxic Christians gotta toxic. I’ll show you what those standards are today, and why they prove so disastrous for Christians.
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The Unequally Yoked Club: Terrible Christian Marriage Advice, Graded
Last time we met up, we talked about why Christians have such a bizarrely-regressive view of marriage. In essence, rigidly codified relationships help keep their authoritarian vision alive. Today, let’s dive into the rules that get that rigid view ensconced in people’s everyday realities.
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The Unequally Yoked Club: How Marriage Became a Cult in Toxic Christianity
Today, we’re going to look at why Christian leaders push so hard to get their flocks following rigid, unworkable rules about marriage. There’s a reason for it, of course. It isn’t a pretty reason. But it is absolutely key to understanding why Christians can’t quit their unworkable ideas about marriage.
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Humanists Weddings: Law Rejection but Opening Going Forward
On the face of it, Northern Ireland have rejected a bid to have the current law declared in breach of human rights. But, as Humanists UK see it, this is a victory: The Court of Appeal in Belfast has ruled that humanist celebrants must be registered by the state as able to perform legal marriages […]
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Complementarianism: Examining the First Claim
Christians who buy in to complementarianism make a lot of claims about this doctrine. Today, I’ll show you what that first claim is, and why it’s wrong. I’ll also show you how this doctrine fits into Christians’ various culture wars.